got my gf a ring

raublekick · 12-03-2005, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Liss

Raub, I've gotten jewelry as gifts, and I never asked for it. And none of my boyfriends ever held it over my head...like, "I gave you that bracelet, Bitch, you're stuck with me." It doesn't work that way.

I'm not dumb, I know it doesn't explicitly work that way. But how many chicks would say yes to a proposal if there were no ring, and how many dudes would have the balls to do so?

Or maybe it's not even that deep, it's just something that people do, and I don't see any reason for it. It's not any different than flashing your tail feathers or sparring with another buck. ::shrugs::

malta · 12-03-2005, 06:41 PM

"But how many chicks would say yes to a proposal if there were no ring"

I would get a ring just because it would seem like a fun thing to do. Does there have to be a reason for everything? I don't feel like I'd have to get her a ring, and if she'd only say yes if I got her one she probably isn't the person I want marry.

Cid · 12-05-2005, 08:57 AM

See, if you feel like it's something you HAVE to do...then you're doing it for the wrong reason. I guess until you actually WANT to do something nice for someone, you just couldn't understand.

And yet, I agree that it's a stupid tradtion. Just because the diamond companies have such a high markup, thus making it cost WAY too much to make someone happy. A ring should never cost a few grand...it's just stupid.

heX · 12-05-2005, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Cid

See, if you feel like it's something you HAVE to do...then you're doing it for the wrong reason. I guess until you actually WANT to do something nice for someone, you just couldn't understand.

And yet, I agree that it's a stupid tradtion. Just because the diamond companies have such a high markup, thus making it cost WAY too much to make someone happy. A ring should never cost a few grand...it's just stupid.

100% agree

Cid · 12-05-2005, 11:10 AM

I 100% love you. What-say you, me and that hottie in your pictures get it ON!

raublekick · 12-05-2005, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Cid

See, if you feel like it's something you HAVE to do...then you're doing it for the wrong reason. I guess until you actually WANT to do something nice for someone, you just couldn't understand.

You're right, I've never done anything nice for anyone. And if I did, it certainly wasn't because I wanted to.

Cid · 12-05-2005, 05:55 PM

Then I guess I just can't see how you can get so bent out of shape about Hex giving his girlfriend a ring. I mean, he wanted to make her happy...because he clearly loves her. Is that so wrong? You just act like you've been burned by the oposite sex a few too many times, and you're just a touch bitter.

I mean, there's a chance that him buying a ring was for nothing else than to make her happy. Maybe he isn't trying to impress you or anyone else. Maybe he was just happy to have the chance to make her so happy. But of course not, he's flashing tail feathers. No no, she made him do it. Better still, he did it to bribe her into staying with him, after all...he probably doesn't trust her, and she more than likely doesn't trust him. That must be it.

Are you sure you bought something for someone out of desire, Raub? Or were you flashing tail feathers? God damn that's a dumb analogy. No offense.

Maybe I'm misreading things.

Mr Biglesworth · 12-05-2005, 06:13 PM

yeah dude his post was in swahilii

raublekick · 12-05-2005, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Cid

Then I guess I just can't see how you can get so bent out of shape about Hex giving his girlfriend a ring. I mean, he wanted to make her happy...because he clearly loves her. Is that so wrong? You just act like you've been burned by the oposite sex a few too many times, and you're just a touch bitter.

I mean, there's a chance that him buying a ring was for nothing else than to make her happy. Maybe he isn't trying to impress you or anyone else. Maybe he was just happy to have the chance to make her so happy. But of course not, he's flashing tail feathers. No no, she made him do it. Better still, he did it to bribe her into staying with him, after all...he probably doesn't trust her, and she more than likely doesn't trust him. That must be it.

Are you sure you bought something for someone out of desire, Raub? Or were you flashing tail feathers? God damn that's a dumb analogy. No offense.

Maybe I'm misreading things.

I never once said Hex's ring-purchase was because of any of those things. I was speaking in general terms as an observation, which I still agree with.

I have no problems with making people happy, I just don't understand, or like, the need for material crap in a relationship. Isn't the gift of love enough? Why the need to plop some unnamed amount of money on something like a ring when you're already in love? It's not the ring itself that bothers me, it's that we throw around "I love you" so much that we need something like a ring to actually give it meaning. The act of love should bring lots of happiness by itself, shouldn't it?

And for the record, I have never been burned by the opposite sex.

Mr Biglesworth · 12-05-2005, 08:17 PM

ah c'mon, we've all been burned. That's because women are inherently evil. For the record.

Personally I think that gifts can be really sweet, when you surprise someone you love with something meaningful. I bought one of my girlfriends a book that looked interesting when I knew she was bored out of her mind in her hometown, then hid it in her closet before I left. Another time I bought a little figurine of a faery and wrote a poem about her faery-self.
What I've seen is a dynamic where one partner will constantly buy stuff for the other, and they don't really appreciate it, but it continues because it seems like an easy way to validate the relationship. Obviously material things are immaterial to what a relationship is really about, and money can't buy you love.

johnny · 12-05-2005, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by raublekick

Isn't the gift of love enough?

sounds like a pretty shitty gift! it's like asking for peace on earth for christmas when you could get a new toy instead..

12-05-2005, 08:57 AM	#3
Cid Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: HELL Posts: 399	See, if you feel like it's something you HAVE to do...then you're doing it for the wrong reason. I guess until you actually WANT to do something nice for someone, you just couldn't understand. And yet, I agree that it's a stupid tradtion. Just because the diamond companies have such a high markup, thus making it cost WAY too much to make someone happy. A ring should never cost a few grand...it's just stupid. __________________ I like the things I do, so hooray for me...and fuck you!

12-05-2005, 11:10 AM	#5
Cid Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: HELL Posts: 399	I 100% love you. What-say you, me and that hottie in your pictures get it ON! __________________ I like the things I do, so hooray for me...and fuck you!

12-05-2005, 05:55 PM	#7
Cid Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: HELL Posts: 399	Then I guess I just can't see how you can get so bent out of shape about Hex giving his girlfriend a ring. I mean, he wanted to make her happy...because he clearly loves her. Is that so wrong? You just act like you've been burned by the oposite sex a few too many times, and you're just a touch bitter. I mean, there's a chance that him buying a ring was for nothing else than to make her happy. Maybe he isn't trying to impress you or anyone else. Maybe he was just happy to have the chance to make her so happy. But of course not, he's flashing tail feathers. No no, she made him do it. Better still, he did it to bribe her into staying with him, after all...he probably doesn't trust her, and she more than likely doesn't trust him. That must be it. Are you sure you bought something for someone out of desire, Raub? Or were you flashing tail feathers? God damn that's a dumb analogy. No offense. Maybe I'm misreading things. __________________ I like the things I do, so hooray for me...and fuck you!

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Mr Biglesworth Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: I live in London Posts: 862	ah c'mon, we've all been burned. That's because women are inherently evil. For the record. Personally I think that gifts can be really sweet, when you surprise someone you love with something meaningful. I bought one of my girlfriends a book that looked interesting when I knew she was bored out of her mind in her hometown, then hid it in her closet before I left. Another time I bought a little figurine of a faery and wrote a poem about her faery-self. What I've seen is a dynamic where one partner will constantly buy stuff for the other, and they don't really appreciate it, but it continues because it seems like an easy way to validate the relationship. Obviously material things are immaterial to what a relationship is really about, and money can't buy you love.