Hmm. What should I do?

Jesse · 12-17-2004, 03:44 PM

Ok. Let me make this very long story short.

Back in March I started dating this girl named Jen. She cheated on me, and then we broke up. Then after a couple weeks after I had removed myself completely from her life, she said she started missing me and all that. I guess she was pretty upset over what happened for a long time. I completely stopped talking to her for about..5 months. Completely removed her from my life.

Back in September, me and 2 other friends of mine went out to a small pond in my city, smoked cigars, and just had a man talk. And I felt really good about myself. So that night, I went home, unblocked Jen from my AIM list, and asked how she was doing. We talked for a while, talked a couple times on and off. Just remained friends. She told me quite a few times that she missed our relationship, and has shown plenty of remorse for what happened.

Also back in September, I got back together with Stephanie. I don't know why, but, it just wasn't working out between her and I. And we broke up a couple weeks ago, to much relief. The last month or so of our relationship was total hell. We weren't getting along, and we decided that we make better friends. And it was an easy thing to do. I'm glad the relationship is over, because it was just a living hell, every day.

Which brings me to this. Jen and I are talking a lot again. And just about every night on AIM she's been pretty much been telling me about how much she misses me, our relationship, my friends, my mother, my cat, our nights of Nick at Night til 5 in the morning. And, yea, I miss those things too. Her and I had a good relationship, until she messed up. She got along great with my friends and family. And we were very compatible.

Tonight her and I have made plans to watch Collateral at her house tonight.

Part of me feels like I shouldn't be spending ANY time with her at all, because of what happened back in May.

Another part of me wants to give her a 2nd chance, because I'm convinced that she's changed, and won't make a mistake like that again.

EH?

testtubebaby · 12-17-2004, 03:55 PM

i just like the phrase "man talk"... that's all

raublekick · 12-17-2004, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by testtubebaby

i just like the phrase "man talk"... that's all

i quite enjoyed that line, as well as the cigar smoking part.

i say go for it, jesse. do you have any other girl prospects on the horizon? if not then it would definately be worth the shot, just make sure she knows that you haven't forgotten what happened.

of course, you could just...

Jesse · 12-17-2004, 04:03 PM

We'll see how it goes when I see her tonight. I definitely don't want to jump into anything without seeing how it feels first. But, it makes it hard not to rush into things when last night she told me on AIM how she feels about me. Telling me she wants me beside her when she sleeps at night and all this stuff.

I suppose I could just...

thecreeper · 12-17-2004, 07:35 PM

just be serious before anything and tell her that if she cheats again, its over, no matter what. i've heard from quite a few people who got back together with ex's that made a mistake, and when they laid ground rules, things tended to be a lot smoother.

just remember that if she did it once...sometimes this stuff will happen again. but you know better than i do the way she acts so i say just...

Jesse · 12-17-2004, 08:47 PM

If things are going that way, yes, I will lay down some ground rules.

But, I mean, with me making all these rules, won't I seem like a...

malta · 12-17-2004, 09:50 PM

if ever you 2 engage in

try not to blow 83% of your

johnny · 12-18-2004, 01:42 AM

17% off!

dude just hit it up. if she changed, maybe it'll work out great, and if she hasn't changed, then just have some fun until she gets bored of you again.

Plain Old Jane · 12-18-2004, 02:26 AM

"Dont play with peoples hearts, and dont put up with people who play with yours." So Sayeth that crazy Baz Lurman song from freshman year of HS.

Also, I'd like to take this time to remind you all that there are hundreds of thousands of people all over the world... and thats tonites random fact.

Mr Biglesworth · 12-18-2004, 02:54 AM

Hundreds of thousands!? That must be, like... a million!!!

johnny · 12-18-2004, 10:05 AM

SO WHAT ARE YOU TRYIN' TO SAY, NEIL!? :evil:

Jesse · 12-18-2004, 03:32 PM

Well, it went pretty well.

I got there, watched Full House with her grandmother and little brother. Then played Mario Kart Double Dash with her and her little brother. Then we played Sonic 2 on the Sonic collection.

Watched Collateral. More Sonic, then I had to go. As soon as I got up she grabbed my leg and wouldn't let me go, she finally let me go, and I'm pretty sure she wanted me to kiss her, but, no, it's too early for that. It felt good to hang out with her again. We still get along just as well as we ever did. I think we're planning on going to see a movie tomorrow, and then going CHristmas shopping.

Hopefully I'm not making any mistakes here.

Mike · 12-20-2004, 01:32 AM

Jesse --

It's going to end and it's going to end painfully.

Don't bother getting mixed up in a mess that will give you nothing.

raublekick · 12-20-2004, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Mike

It's going to end and it's going to end painfully.

well, i guess i'll just give up on any future relationships

thecreeper · 12-20-2004, 09:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by raublekick

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mike

It's going to end and it's going to end painfully.

well, i guess i'll just give up on any future relationships

i was pretty sure you had actually.

and i dont know if its going to end painfully, but i would be sure not to put yourself in a position to be really hurt.

Plain Old Jane · 12-20-2004, 10:12 PM

remember what De Gualle said. "The graveyard is full of indespensible men"

snake, that means you shouldnt just go out and grab an item for its own sake, there are lots of enemys out there, and it may be more trouble than its worth.

thecreeper · 12-20-2004, 11:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NorthernCross

remember what De Gualle said. "The graveyard is full of indespensible men"

snake, that means you shouldnt just go out and grab an item for its own sake, there are lots of enemys out there, and it may be more trouble than its worth.

haha, great (and obscure) MGS reference.

Plain Old Jane · 12-21-2004, 01:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by thecreeper

Quote:

Originally Posted by NorthernCross

remember what De Gualle said. "The graveyard is full of indespensible men"

snake, that means you shouldnt just go out and grab an item for its own sake, there are lots of enemys out there, and it may be more trouble than its worth.

haha, great (and obscure) MGS reference.

and it relates, how about that, eh?

Mike · 12-21-2004, 06:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by raublekick

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mike

It's going to end and it's going to end painfully.

well, i guess i'll just give up on any future relationships

No, just relationships where you break up and then get *serious* again.

raublekick · 12-21-2004, 08:47 PM

Well, your comment was a little ambiguous, and can easily be read as "don't bother entering a relationship that's going to end painfully". Even if you hate your wife/girlfriend, she might be good to keep around for some fine cooking and housecleaning. If they left or died, who'd be around to clean your shitter, or make you a sammich? Painful.

12-17-2004, 03:44 PM	#1
Jesse Administrator Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 812	Hmm. What should I do? Ok. Let me make this very long story short. Back in March I started dating this girl named Jen. She cheated on me, and then we broke up. Then after a couple weeks after I had removed myself completely from her life, she said she started missing me and all that. I guess she was pretty upset over what happened for a long time. I completely stopped talking to her for about..5 months. Completely removed her from my life. Back in September, me and 2 other friends of mine went out to a small pond in my city, smoked cigars, and just had a man talk. And I felt really good about myself. So that night, I went home, unblocked Jen from my AIM list, and asked how she was doing. We talked for a while, talked a couple times on and off. Just remained friends. She told me quite a few times that she missed our relationship, and has shown plenty of remorse for what happened. Also back in September, I got back together with Stephanie. I don't know why, but, it just wasn't working out between her and I. And we broke up a couple weeks ago, to much relief. The last month or so of our relationship was total hell. We weren't getting along, and we decided that we make better friends. And it was an easy thing to do. I'm glad the relationship is over, because it was just a living hell, every day. Which brings me to this. Jen and I are talking a lot again. And just about every night on AIM she's been pretty much been telling me about how much she misses me, our relationship, my friends, my mother, my cat, our nights of Nick at Night til 5 in the morning. And, yea, I miss those things too. Her and I had a good relationship, until she messed up. She got along great with my friends and family. And we were very compatible. Tonight her and I have made plans to watch Collateral at her house tonight. Part of me feels like I shouldn't be spending ANY time with her at all, because of what happened back in May. Another part of me wants to give her a 2nd chance, because I'm convinced that she's changed, and won't make a mistake like that again. EH?

12-17-2004, 07:35 PM	#5
thecreeper Administrator Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Lancaster, PA Posts: 2,330	just be serious before anything and tell her that if she cheats again, its over, no matter what. i've heard from quite a few people who got back together with ex's that made a mistake, and when they laid ground rules, things tended to be a lot smoother. just remember that if she did it once...sometimes this stuff will happen again. but you know better than i do the way she acts so i say just... __________________ good-evil.net - ahh, wade boggs...goes down smooth.

12-18-2004, 02:26 AM	#9
Plain Old Jane i hate vagina Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 841	"Dont play with peoples hearts, and dont put up with people who play with yours." So Sayeth that crazy Baz Lurman song from freshman year of HS. Also, I'd like to take this time to remind you all that there are hundreds of thousands of people all over the world... and thats tonites random fact. __________________ Scary Monsters and Nice Sprites.

12-20-2004, 10:12 PM	#16
Plain Old Jane i hate vagina Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 841	remember what De Gualle said. "The graveyard is full of indespensible men" snake, that means you shouldnt just go out and grab an item for its own sake, there are lots of enemys out there, and it may be more trouble than its worth. __________________ Scary Monsters and Nice Sprites.

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12-17-2004, 03:55 PM	#2
testtubebaby Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 631	i just like the phrase "man talk"... that's all

12-17-2004, 04:03 PM	#4
Jesse Administrator Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 812	We'll see how it goes when I see her tonight. I definitely don't want to jump into anything without seeing how it feels first. But, it makes it hard not to rush into things when last night she told me on AIM how she feels about me. Telling me she wants me beside her when she sleeps at night and all this stuff. I suppose I could just...

12-17-2004, 08:47 PM	#6
Jesse Administrator Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 812	If things are going that way, yes, I will lay down some ground rules. But, I mean, with me making all these rules, won't I seem like a...

12-17-2004, 09:50 PM	#7
malta Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: buffalo Posts: 442	if ever you 2 engage in try not to blow 83% of your

12-18-2004, 01:42 AM	#8
johnny Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Upper Canada Posts: 1,276	17% off! dude just hit it up. if she changed, maybe it'll work out great, and if she hasn't changed, then just have some fun until she gets bored of you again.

12-18-2004, 02:54 AM	#10
Mr Biglesworth Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: I live in London Posts: 862	Hundreds of thousands!? That must be, like... a million!!!

12-18-2004, 10:05 AM	#11
johnny Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Upper Canada Posts: 1,276	SO WHAT ARE YOU TRYIN' TO SAY, NEIL!? :evil:

12-18-2004, 03:32 PM	#12
Jesse Administrator Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 812	Well, it went pretty well. I got there, watched Full House with her grandmother and little brother. Then played Mario Kart Double Dash with her and her little brother. Then we played Sonic 2 on the Sonic collection. Watched Collateral. More Sonic, then I had to go. As soon as I got up she grabbed my leg and wouldn't let me go, she finally let me go, and I'm pretty sure she wanted me to kiss her, but, no, it's too early for that. It felt good to hang out with her again. We still get along just as well as we ever did. I think we're planning on going to see a movie tomorrow, and then going CHristmas shopping. Hopefully I'm not making any mistakes here.

12-20-2004, 01:32 AM	#13
Mike Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 489	Jesse -- It's going to end and it's going to end painfully. Don't bother getting mixed up in a mess that will give you nothing.

12-21-2004, 08:47 PM	#20
raublekick Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Lancastuh, PA Posts: 1,678	Well, your comment was a little ambiguous, and can easily be read as "don't bother entering a relationship that's going to end painfully". Even if you hate your wife/girlfriend, she might be good to keep around for some fine cooking and housecleaning. If they left or died, who'd be around to clean your shitter, or make you a sammich? Painful.